The Ilocos Times

WE often recognize physical age without recognizing emotional maturity. Someone can be forty yet react to criticism like a child, while another quietly accepts disappointment, takes responsibility, and remains kind. Psychological maturity is not simply growing older; it is learning to live truthfully and responsibly. Psychological maturity means becoming more fully oneself: knowing strengths and weaknesses, accepting reality, regulating emotions, making responsible decisions, forming healthy relationships, and pursuing worthwhile goals. It is gradual, not finished. We mature as experience, reflection, virtue, and grace reshape how we live. A mature person does not mean someone who never becomes angry, afraid, disappointed, or sad. Maturity enables us to recognize emotions without becoming their prisoners. We can acknowledge pain, think calmly, choose a fitting response, and continue doing what love and responsibility require. This distinction is important for Christian life. Sp...

WE are living in an age of endless distractions. Artificial intelligence , social media , and digital technology have made life faster, smarter, and more convenient. Yet they can also imprison us in ourselves, making us increasingly self-absorbed and indifferent to others. That is why one question has become more urgent than ever: What is the real purpose of my life ? Unless we answer it clearly, we will drift wherever the latest trend, pleasure, or crisis carries us. A life without purpose soon becomes a life without direction. Every day, countless voices compete for our attention. Notifications, opinions, advertisements, and entertainment fill our minds from morning until night. Without a steady interior compass, we easily mistake activity for meaning and success for fulfillment. The greatest challenge today is not simply information overload. It is purpose overload. We chase careers, wealth, comfort, and recognition, only to discover that none of them can fully satisfy the de...

A PHONE can connect us to a friend across the world within seconds, yet it can also make someone sitting beside us feel completely ignored. Social media is neither simply good nor bad. It is a powerful tool whose value depends greatly on how wisely we use it. Social media allows families to remain connected, especially when distance separates loved ones. It can spread useful information, support small businesses, provide learning opportunities, encourage charitable action, and give people platforms to share creativity. Used properly, it can strengthen relationships and contribute positively to society. Yet the same platforms can become sources of comparison, envy, anger, misinformation, vanity, and distraction. Endless scrolling can consume hours without producing anything worthwhile. Arguments can become vicious, private matters can become public, and carefully edited images can make ordinary lives appear disappointingly inadequate. The first discipline we need is self-control ....

"BEWARE of Dogs" has long been the neighborhood's most honest security system. The sign warns visitors to tread carefully because the animal behind the gate may not bother distinguishing friend from foe. Loyalty is admirable, but instinct is not always discerning. Artificial intelligence deserves its own version of that warning. AI is brilliant, fast, and astonishingly useful. But like any powerful servant, it can become a dangerous master when driven by vanity, ambition, or the illusion that technology alone can answer every human question. The newest fascination is no longer just smarter machines. It is the dream of smarter humans—or even something beyond human. Transhumanism promises to upgrade humanity, while posthumanism quietly suggests that humanity itself may already be obsolete. That should give us pause. Every age has had its Tower of Babel , its confidence that human ingenuity could climb high enough to replace dependence on God. Today's tower is b...

WHEN Christ sent his apostles to proclaim the Gospel , he did not simply give them a mission. He gave them a way of life. "Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse the lepers, cast out demons. Freely you have received; freely give." Then came the startling instruction: "Take no gold or silver or copper in your belts; no bag for the journey, no extra tunic, no sandals or staff." ( Mt. 10:8-10 ) Those words were radical then, and they remain radical today. Jesus was teaching his followers to let go of self-sufficiency and place their confidence entirely in God. Their mission was not to be driven by comfort, possessions, or financial security, but by faith , generosity, and an unwavering commitment to bringing God's kingdom to others. That challenge was not meant only for the Twelve Apostles. It extends to every Christian who sincerely wants to follow Christ. While not everyone is called to abandon material possessions literally, all are called to cultivate the same...

By Carlos V. Cornejo A good book on making big decisions, reveal blind spots and come up with creative methods in solving problems is that of Shane Parrish entitled “The Great Mental Models”.   It makes use of the acronym I.F.S to recall the mental models of Inversion , First Principle Thinking , and Second-Order Thinking . Inversion means if you are having a hard time solving a problem, try to look at that problem in another perspective by solving the opposite problem.   Instead of asking, “How can I make a really good presentation video?” ask, “How can I make a really bad presentation video?”   If you come up with a list of how to make a bad video it might be using a PowerPoint with no images and just pure texts, use a monotone voice that makes the presentation boring and put your audience to sleep, and make it longer than it needs to be.   Since you’ve imagined what a bad presentation looks like you can now come up with the criteria of a good one if you inv...

MUSIC has always been more than entertainment. It is woven into the fabric of human life and, more importantly, into our spiritual journey . The Bible alone testifies to this truth, containing hundreds of references to singing, musical instruments, and songs. From the Psalms to the heavenly choirs in Revelation , music has long been a powerful expression of faith and worship . In everyday life, music speaks a language that words often cannot. It comforts us in moments of sorrow, lifts our spirits when we are weary, energizes us during physical activity, and calms us after stressful days. It has an extraordinary ability to reach the heart, making it one of humanity's most universal forms of expression. Music also brings people together. Whether in worship, celebration, or shared moments of grief, singing creates a common rhythm that unites individuals into a community. It strengthens relationships and even rekindles memories. A familiar melody can instantly transport us to a ...

By Carlos V. Cornejo Any pursuit on worldly things such as money, fame, power and pleasure will always end up making the pursuer wanting for more but never getting satisfied.  On the other hand, pursuit for knowledge, skills and loving others makes us full and would happily still want more.  With the former it makes the pursuer unhappy.  The latter makes the pursuer thankful.  What’s more the latter gets to multiply his joy because what he additionally acquires feels like a bonus.  In contrast the former may get more but feels he still has less.  This reminds me of Bill Gates , Mark Zuckerberg and Elon Musk .   They are all very famous people and have altered the world with their inventions.   They too are all very rich.    They’re worth billions and yet they have not retired.   They could have just stopped working, went on a world tour, savored everything that money could buy and still have much money left.   But they are ...

NOWADAYS, mental health clinics are becoming more common. More people, especially the young, seek help for anxiety , depression, stress, trauma, and other emotional struggles. This growing need should concern us all. These clinics perform an important service. Professional counseling, therapy, medication, and other psychological interventions have helped many recover balance and hope. They deserve our appreciation and support. But there is one truth we should never overlook. Mental health and spiritual health are deeply connected. One affects the other. A troubled mind can make prayer difficult, weaken hope, and drain one's desire to do good. At the same time, a neglected spiritual life can leave the mind more vulnerable to fear, loneliness, despair, and confusion. They constantly interact because the human person is both body and soul . Yet we should also keep our priorities clear. Our spiritual life has primacy. It is the soul that gives ultimate meaning to everything...

By Carlos V. Cornejo Karma is a justice belief held mostly by Eastern religions that for every moral action we do there is a corresponding reaction.   If we show goodness, we reap goodness.   If we do evil, we reap evil.   Karma usually is not instant but nevertheless it will come.    It is supposed to teach us life’s lessons and to help us be better people.   Grace on the other hand is love and mercy given to us by God, something that we don’t deserve but God out of His goodness freely gives it.   Grace can also mean a divine influence to inspire us to do good or to practice the virtues and a kind of aid or strength to endure trial and resist temptations to commit sin.   Divine grace enlightens the mind and strengthens the will (our power to make choices) to do the right thing.   Grace can be availed from the sacraments such as Confession and Holy Eucharist .   Karma is attractive to our beliefs because it appeals to our sen...

WHEN the disciples asked Christ why he spoke in parables , his answer was simple and direct: "Because they look but do not see, and they hear but do not listen or understand." (Mt. 13:13) Later, he explained the deeper reason. They did not want to be converted. That answer should make us examine ourselves. Christ's parables are much more than memorable stories. They reveal the mysteries of the Kingdom of God to those who approach him with faith and humility. At the same time, they test the disposition of every listener. Those who sincerely seek God receive light. Those who close themselves to him remain confused. The problem is not with the message but with the heart that refuses to receive it. The same principle applies to all the truths of our faith. Faith has to come first. Reason is indispensable, but it has to be enlightened by faith. Human intelligence, no matter how brilliant, has its limits. Left on its own, it can only grasp what is visible and measura...

MODERN society often associates addiction with alcohol or illegal drugs. Yet an increasing number of psychologists, pastoral counselors, and spiritual writers recognize another destructive addiction that has spread quietly through the internet and digital media: pornography. Available at the touch of a screen and often consumed in secrecy, pornography has become what many describe as the "new drug." Its effects reach far beyond the individual, damaging marriages, families, friendships, and one's relationship with God. From a Catholic perspective, pornography is not merely a moral failing but a distortion of God's beautiful plan for human love. The Catechism of the Catholic Church teaches that pornography "does grave injury to the dignity of its participants" because it reduces persons to objects of pleasure instead of recognizing them as children of God created in His image (CCC 2354). Rather than fostering authentic love , pornography trains the mind ...